1. I can talk to my partner openly about uncomfortable feelings

         2. I am pleased with the quality of physical affection in our relationship

3. My partner understands the way I think.

4. We are able to resolve most of our conflicts.

5. Both of us make our relationship a priority.

6. I don't take it personally if my partner is in a bad mood.

7. We have a fair and balanced share of responsibilities.

8. We share similar beliefs about love and commitment. 

9. My partner and I generally enjoy doing things together.

10. I feel confident that my partner is able to effectively listen to me.

11. Misunderstandings between my partner and I are easily clarified.

12. I enjoy both giving and receiving sexual pleasure with my partner.

13. I trust my partner completely.

14. We share a deep sense of mutual respect.

15. We're both comfortable with our process for making major decisions.

16. My partner recognizes what I contribute to the relationship.

17. I value my partner's attitude and ideas.

18. I rarely feel "shut out" by my partner.

19. Our differences make us a good team.

20. Even if we get angry, we can always revisit an issue and resolve it without hostility.

21. I feel a significant sexual attraction to my partner.

22. I feel free to pursue some of my own interests, even if they are different from my partner's.

23. I have never felt resentful toward my partner.

24. I believe my partner truly appreciates my body.

25. Both of us are pleased with the amount of time we are able to share together.

26. We are both comfortable with the way we each manage our financial matters.

27. My partner is generally responsive to my attempts to initiate sexual activity.

28. When one of us feels strongly about an issue, the other usually can be flexible.

29. Our different abilities and preferences are good for our relationship.

30. We have similar goals for the future.

31. I rarely feel criticized by my partner.

32. My partner enjoys hearing about the things that interest me.

33. Honesty is an important component of our relationship.

34. I never feel like I have to defend myself or my actions with my partner.

35. We share many similar interests.

36. We have close to the same preferences for socializing with others.

37. Unless one of us is not feeling well, our energy levels are about the same.

38. We understand each other's approach to discipline. (Please answer even if you do not have children).

39. I like about the same amount of space and privacy as my partner.

40. We agree on what defines a healthy relationship.

41. We respect and support each other's spiritual beliefs.

42. My partner's level of optimism and/or pessimism  is good for our relationship.

43. Our ideas about men and women are very much alike. 

44. My partner's intellectual capacity is close to my own.

45. Most of the time, I feel comfortable with my partner's extended family.

46. We have discussed and agreed on our thoughts about having (or having had) children in our lives together.

47. I find it easy to talk to my partner about our future.

48. I look forward to the time of day when my partner and I get to share time together.

49. We demonstrate affection for each other through kissing, hugging, and/or touching.

50. It is easy to openly share my thoughts and feelings with my partner.

51. My partner finds me sexually attractive.

52. It is important to me that I listen to and understand my partner's thoughts and ideas.

53. I am comfortable with the quality of our emotional expression in our relationship.

54. I feel like my partner is considerate of me.

55. We trust each other when it comes to making day-to-day decisions.

56. There are no topics we need to avoid discussing in order to keep the peace.

57. My partner never speaks to me with contempt.

58. I feel comfortable when my partner participates in some activities without me.

59. We like and admire each other.

60. I trust that my partner is very committed to our relationship.

61.My partner is supportive of my thoughts, goals, and endeavors.

62. I never worry that my partner may get defensive about something I say or do. 

63. Even if there are some things I don't always like about my partner, I can address the matter without being critical.

64. We both enjoy about the same amount of conversation with each other.

65. We seem to support each other during periods of stress.

66. My partner and I share enough interests to keep us feeling connected.

67. It feels like we each do our fair share in the relationship.

68. I never use the "silent treatment" to get back at my partner.

69. I know what makes my partner feel appreciated.

70. I am happy to be in this relationship.

71. We each put effort into the relationship, but it doesn't feel too hard most of the time.

72. When it comes to the frequency and timing of sexual and/or erotic activity, we are not too different.

73. I don't ever find myself fantasizing about having a better relationship with someone else.

74. Disagreements do not hurt our relationship.

75. We apologize to each other if one of us said or did something that hurt the other.

76. My partner can easily express empathy for my feelings.

77. We share the same idea of what commitment means for our relationship.

78. I think we know each other well enough to be clear on the answers to most of these questions.

79. My partner would probably answer these questions much in the same way I did.

80. I am looking forward to seeing the results of this test.

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